December 1st, 2008
It’s about time to wrap this thing up. I’ve got an itchin’ for some story-telling. This auto-biographical stuff is depressin’, but I guess I owe it to you, the reader. I left off back in VA., so that’s where I’ll pick up. OKAY? By the way, I do have my first story up HERE
I had by some chance been convinced to move back to Virginia by a family I had met in a church I had attended when i had lived here before. I was in DIRE STRAITS (not the band) at the time, had no car, and nothing really holding me anywhere. They offered to let me stay with them until I got employment (they had no idea about my IDTheft). I took them up on the offer, they were really nice people, and I had a little crush on their daughter, all in favor? But as problems seem to follow me…..I had a dilemna. Their offer ended up with a condition. I couldn’t bartend and stay with them, it was against their beliefs and I was better than that, so they said. Well I couldn’t get a job any other way, and I didn’t want them to hear about my background check (how do you explain that?). So, I graciously moved out, with no place to go. I ended up officially HOMELESS for over 3 weeks. I will tell you all about my HOMELESS experience at a later date.
Luckily, a miracle happened and I came up with over $300. and a job, all on the same day. I got a hotel room for a week, and started tending bar at a “really dark” nightclub. I met a bouncer who became a good friend(still to this day), who let me move in with him for 6 months while his wife was at sea. I then met a Mexican girl, who reminded me of home. She had 3 kids who I loved very much, despite that I had stopped liking her early in the relationship. Nonetheless we ended up getting married, she cheated, got a divorce, all in a year. I don’t play that, but we were both bartenders, with not alot of morals at the time, so it was expected I guess. Then about a year later I met the LOVE of MY LIFE! WHOOPPEE!!!!
Actually, I had met my wife now while I was still married, but just as a customer. We actually were friends for a while, hung out with the same crowd,etc…But we finally figured out that we were for each other after over a year of hangin out. Then we were engaged for a year, then married, 6 years and countin’ :).I REALLY RECOMMEND MARRYING A FRIEND. We’ve been through alot together, and are still fighting battles, but together, I finally have a team-mate.
Well, since getting married, it’s been kind of a blur. Our first-born (Emily, Daddy Loves You) was born still-born, it was very devastating for both of us. I will eventually fight the tears and tell you all about those 2 days that my time stood still. But on the bright side, our daughter was born 1 1/2 hours short of exactly 1 year later, and she has been a blessing for over 4 years now. Besides that tragedy, we are still fighting my ID theft. I actually, after 10 years got an expongement of my record back in January. I still show up negatively on most background checks. That sucks! I have been told that I probably will never get a job that I deserve, but I’ve proven them all wrong. I am now officially a P.D.D for a Nationally Recognized Company. That’s right……a Pizza Delivery Driver for Papa John’s. YUK! See you in Story-Land!
CHEERS
January 4th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
A well written account of the trials of identity theft that you have experienced. I’m proud of you for your perseverence! Anyone who knows you knows that you are a good man…a fantastic father and husband! Glad you are getting the word out there! You have been a victim of both perpetrator and a corrupt local government system ( I lived there, too).
Be well, do not give up on life. You have many blessings and are protected.
Susan
January 4th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
Thanks,
I’m trying. We’ll see what happens. My motto: “Whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” I would give credit for that quote to whoever deserves it, but I have no idea who said it.